Is Your Kid Trans? Don’t Expect the School to Tell You

by Kerry Dougherty

In case you’re wondering how Glenn Youngkin came to be elected in Virginia perhaps it’s because the Northam regime ensured that you could drop your son off at school where he could duck into the girls’ room, slap on lipstick and demand everyone address him as “She/Her.”

And you’d be the last to know.

That’s right. Parents aren’t automatically notified if their kid is trans in Virginia thanks to the nutty wokesters in the last administration.

Get a load of these:

These were slides were sent to me by several sources over the weekend. They were shown to faculty at a Virginia Beach high school, I was told.

“Which one?” I asked.

The answer came, “Princess Anne.”

To verify, I did what reporters have always done. On Monday I phoned the Virginia Beach Schools’ Department of Media and Communications.

“Can you confirm that these slides were part of a presentation to the faculty at Princess Anne High School?” I asked. “And is this the policy of VBPS?”

The spokeswoman asked me to email the images and said she’d get back to me. Late in the day, another member of the staff emailed to say they needed more time.

They were stalling.

On Tuesday, I received this:

Ms. Dougherty,

This email is to acknowledge your Freedom of Information Act request received by Virginia Beach City Public Schools Monday January 31, 2021.

Your specific request includes:

Were these two slides presented to faculty at Princess Anne High School?

Is it VBPS policy to allow students to use a gender other than the one they were born with without their parents’ knowledge?

The Division has 5 business days to send your responsive records. As authorized by Virginia Code § 2.2-3705.1(F), the Division may assess charges for the cost of staff time to search for and produce responsive records. Those charges are based on the hourly rate provided by the Department of Human Resources.

You may expect to receive your documents on or before February 7, 2022


John F Sutton III, M.Ed.
Coordinator of Policy and Intergovernmental Affairs
Virginia Beach City Public Schools

They bought themselves five more days. Best of all, they plan to bilk me for doing their jobs. Good luck with that.

I didn’t file a FOIA request and I didn’t ask for records. And they know it. These factotums are treating a routine media inquiry as a Freedom of Information action.

It’s a game with these people. I asked them to answer two simple questions. These imperious “public servants” plan to take nearly a week to provide an answer.

I’m an impatient person. So I did a workaround.

I phoned School Board member Vicky Manning, who confirmed that the slides were shown at a Princess Anne High School faculty meeting. She shared an email exchange between herself and school staff.

In her initial email she didn’t know which high school was involved. In a follow-up Manning told the staff she’d confirmed that it was Princess Anne High School.

From: Victoria C. Manning <>
Sent: Friday, January 28, 2022 7:44 AM
To: Aaron C. Spence <>; Donald E. Robertson Jr <>; Eugene Soltner <>; Matthew Delaney <>
Subject: high school faculty meeting

A parent/friend of mine shared the attached slides with me. She received it from a teacher who is afraid to share with administration. These slides were used in a faculty meeting in a Virginia Beach High School earlier this month. I’m trying to find out which high school.

I’m very concerned that it seems teachers are being told that it is ok to keep things from parents. It states (with or without parental knowledge). As I read the transgender regulations, it seems that any pronoun change would need to be received in writing from a parent of a minor student or in writing from a student that is not a minor. Is that accurate?

If I find out which high school, I will let you know.

Victoria Manning

School Board At-Large, City of Virginia Beach

This was the response Manning received from school staff:

From: Donald E. Robertson Jr <>

Sent: Monday, January 31, 2022 2:43 PM

To: Victoria C. Manning <>; Aaron C. Spence <>; Eugene Soltner <>; Matthew Delaney <>

Subject: RE: high school faculty meeting

Mrs. Manning,

The content of these slides align to Regulation 5-7.1, enacted as a result of new federal and state legislation as well as model policies from the VDOE. Under regulation 5-7.1B.2, we provide direction about parent involvement and believe this provides more active language to include parents as compared to language on pp 11-12 of the model policies. In terms of the term “nonbinary’ I direct you to the VDOE Model Policies on page 6.

Donald E. Robertson, Jr. PhD

Chief of Staff

Virginia Beach City Public Schools

If you cut through the jargon and gibberish you realize that Donald E. Robertson seems to be saying that it is indeed the policy of Virginia Beach public schools to allow children to switch gender without informing parents. He claims it is part of a directive from the Virginia Department of Education.

This is an anti-family regulation and one more example of the left attempting to drive a wedge between parents and children. So-called progressives believe the government knows what’s best for children. Parents, with their pesky morality, rules and religion, just get in the way.

Manning — part of the pro-family coalition on the school board — is incensed.

A child in Virginia Beach cannot go on a field trip across the street from their school without parental permission but they can decide to assume a new name or gender without parental knowledge,” she said. “I believe this is a pure violation of the Natural Rights of parents that are also spelled out in Virginia Code: § 1-240.1. Rights of parents. A parent has a fundamental right to make decisions concerning the upbringing, education, and care of the parent’s child.

There are legal challenges on this topic across the state. I hope parents in Virginia Beach will step up and challenge this in court also!

Preach, sister.

Consider this: Virginia Beach requires parental permission for students to come to class without a mask.

But if your son wants to use the girl’s locker room and prance around in a bra, that’s between him and the principal.

The General Assembly needs to fix this slice of insanity.


This column has been republished with permission from Kerry: Unemployed & Unedited.

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27 responses to “Is Your Kid Trans? Don’t Expect the School to Tell You”

  1. Our ruling elites have achieved peak arrogance. None of this transgender nonsense was debated and legislated. It was imposed by bureaucratic fiat. Those in the ruling elites think they are smarter than everyone else, and think they know better than everyone else, and they know better than you what’s good for your kid.

    1. vicnicholls Avatar

      I think there are lawsuits, needs to be more.

    2. Dick Hall-Sizemore Avatar
      Dick Hall-Sizemore

      Oh, but it was legislated. See Sec 22.1-23.3. Also, the public had the opportunity to submit comments on the draft model policy.

      1. Matt Adams Avatar
        Matt Adams

        Ҥ 22.1-23.3. Treatment of transgender students; policies.
        A. The Department of Education shall develop and make available to each school board model policies concerning the treatment of transgender students in public elementary and secondary schools that address common issues regarding transgender students in accordance with evidence-based best practices and include information, guidance, procedures, and standards relating to:

        1. Compliance with applicable nondiscrimination laws;

        2. Maintenance of a safe and supportive learning environment free from discrimination and harassment for all students;

        3. Prevention of and response to bullying and harassment;

        4. Maintenance of student records;

        5. Identification of students;

        6. Protection of student privacy and the confidentiality of sensitive information;

        7. Enforcement of sex-based dress codes; and

        8. Student participation in sex-specific school activities and events and use of school facilities. Activities and events do not include athletics.

        B. Each school board shall adopt policies that are consistent with but may be more comprehensive than the model policies developed by the Department of Education pursuant to subsection A.”

        Where in that statute does it address not notifying the parents of a minor? It doesn’t and clearly that is not the intent of the statute either.

  2. vicnicholls Avatar

    Sutton is a jerk. I have that on the record. The Chesapeake School Board is doing the same thing. @Jabacon:disqus The Chesapeake School Board said that they don’t have a record who is in charge of meting out discipline – as in they gave a year suspension to one VB parent who came to help the good folks out, and NOTHING to a Chesapeake parent who was escorted off and convicted of trespassing because of a meeting disruption (same thing that they indicated the VB parent did).

  3. Dick Hall-Sizemore Avatar
    Dick Hall-Sizemore

    Kerry frequently makes reference to her background as a reporter. She should act like a reporter and do some research before voicing her indignation.

    The Virginia Beach schools did not have a lot of choice in this matter. State law (Sec. 22.1-23.3) requires the state Dept of Education to develop a model policy regarding transgender students and requires local school divisions to adopt policies that are consistent with the model policy.

    In the model policy’s description of privacy policies, the Dept. of Education has this passage:

    “School divisions will need to consider the health and safety of the student in situations where students may not want their parents to know about their transgender status, and schools should address this on a case-by-case basis. If a student is not ready or able to safely share with their family about their transgender status, this should be respected. There are no regulations requiring school staff to notify a parent or guardian of a student’s request to affirm their gender identity, and school staff should work with students to help them share the information with their family when they are ready to do so.”

    1. Matt Adams Avatar
      Matt Adams

      Sec. 22.1-23.3 does not provide any justification or pathway to keep parents from being consented in the case of a minor.

      I posted the text of 22.1-23.3 below to your other comment.

    2. Nancy Naive Avatar
      Nancy Naive

      A lot of chiefs and so few sailors…

      In addition to the State laws, the also have to adhere to Federal policy:

      “The Supreme Court has upheld the right for LGBTQ+ people to live and work without fear of harassment, exclusion, and discrimination – and our LGBTQ+ students have the same rights and deserve the same protections. I’m proud to have directed the Office for Civil Rights to enforce Title IX to protect all students from all forms of sex discrimination,” said U.S. Secretary of Education Miguel Cardona. “Today, the Department makes clear that all students—including LGBTQ+ students—deserve the opportunity to learn and thrive in schools that are free from discrimination.”

      In essence, they CANNOT treat a LGBTQ+ differently than one another or use the fact that they are LGBTQ+ as reason to do so.

      It is indeed a bit of a Catch-22. Kerry fancied herself an Erma Bombeck except for the insight and the wit.

  4. killerhertz Avatar

    Meanwhile they now have a pregnant man emoji on many social media platforms.

    James Lindsay is a great source of knowledge on this subject. Doug Murray adds an interesting perspective as well.

    1. Nancy Naive Avatar
      Nancy Naive

      They have another one? I thought that was what your profile pic was.

      1. Packer Fan Avatar
        Packer Fan

        What a comeback! I thought Nancy was actually an old retired dude, but apparently he’s a 14-year old boy!

        1. Nancy Naive Avatar
          Nancy Naive

          Said the 12-year old admiringly.

          1. Packer Fan Avatar
            Packer Fan

            Knew that was coming 🙂

          2. Nancy Naive Avatar
            Nancy Naive

            Wow! You are a Packer fan.

  5. Stephen Haner Avatar
    Stephen Haner

    All this to avoid the simple answer that clearly fits the facts, yes! The slides were presented and it reflects school policy. Now it is way more fun. My overall low opinion of school administrators actually started in high school fifty years ago (when I had to call the Roanoke police in during a riot at Patrick Henry, because nobody in the office would. I actually called my dad, the assistant city manager, and he then called the chief of police, who also had a kid at the school!)

    I’ve never actually seen polling on these issues but not hard to predict the voter response to questions about little Johnny going into the girls’ bathroom or trying out for the girls softball team, or vice versa for Jane. Hence the school division’s craven response.

    Casting school plays must be really interesting now. “Why can’t I play Juliet?”

  6. Nancy Naive Avatar
    Nancy Naive

    If they ever develop a prenatal LBGTQ+ test, Republicans will be all for mandate testing and taxpayer funded on-demand abortion.

    1. No they won”t.

  7. Nancy Naive Avatar
    Nancy Naive

    Can a school employee do what their doctor can’t?

    But in case you’re really interested, it has to do with SCOTUS ruling on terminology in the CRA, and the same exact wording appearing in the Education Act. Even this SCOTUS will have a hard twist to unscrew themselves from that.

    Title IX

    The U.S. Department of Education’s Office for Civil Rights (OCR) enforces, among other statutes, Title IX of the Education Amendments of 1972. Title IX protects people from discrimination based on sex in education programs or activities that receive federal financial assistance.

    Title IX states:

    No person in the United States shall, on the basis of sex, be excluded from participation in, be denied the benefits of, or be subjected to discrimination under any education program or activity receiving Federal financial assistance.

    In it’s ruling, the SCOTUS stated that the use of the word “sex” as written into the emploment section of the CRA encompasses more than just “gender” but the act as well. The justices made reference to the fact that had Congess meant gender then they were certainly aware of the differences between the two words.

    ““Today, we must decide whether an employer can fire someone simply for being homosexual or transgender. The answer is clear. An employer who fires an individual for being homosexual or transgender fires that person for traits or actions it would not have questioned in members of a different sex. Sex plays a necessary and undisguisable role in the decision, exactly what Title VII forbid.”

  8. Eric the half a troll Avatar
    Eric the half a troll

    Might not have been so “interesting” but Kerry could have googled VB actual policy on Transgender students and interaction with parents. They are silent on whether parents must be notified but do stipulate how to address parents who disagree with the student requests:

    “Treatment of Transgender Students

    The School Division respects students’ variations in sexuality, gender identity, expression, and/or presentation. Students are entitled to a safe and positive learning environment regardless of their sexuality, gender identity, expression, and/or presentation.

    “Confidentiality of information
    All school personnel shall adhere to legal standards of confidentiality relating to information about a student’s gender identity, legal name, or sex assigned at birth.

    In addition to adhering to all legal standards of confidentiality, school personnel shall treat information relating to a student’s gender identity as particularly sensitive and shall not disclose it to other students and other parents.

    Disclosure of such information may only be made to other school personnel with a legitimate educational interest.

    Student name and gender pronouns
    In accordance with this subsection, students will be allowed to use a name and gender pronoun that reflects their gender identity without substantiating evidence. The pronouns recognized by the School Division will be he, she, or they. A student or parent requesting a different pronoun other than those listed in this item should notify the principal or designee.

    At the written request of the student or parent/legal guardian of a minor student, use the name and pronoun that corresponds to the student’s or parent/legal guardian’s request. The school administration where the student attends school may require that the request be made in writing.

    School personnel and students who are not informed of the requested name and gender pronoun by the school administration will not be found to have discriminated against or harassed the student for not using the requested name or gender pronoun.

    Inadvertent or mistaken use of a student’s preferred name and/or gender pronoun will not constitute discrimination or harassment if the school administration determines that there was no ill will or intention to discriminate or harass the student. Reasonable efforts will be made to inform the person not using the student’s preferred name or pronoun and that compliance with this Regulation and related policies and regulations is required.

    In the situation when parents/legal guardians of minor students (under 18 years of age) do not agree with the minor student’s request to adopt a new name and/or pronoun or gender identity, the school administrator will make reasonable efforts to work with the student and the parents/legal guardians to determine how to address the student’s needs while in the educational setting. If the parents/legal guardian continue to disagree with the student on these matters, the school administrator or designee should consult with School Board Legal
    Counsel and the Department of School Leadership.

    Student records (i.e. birth certificate, Student Information System, final transcript) that require the student’s legal name and sex assigned at birth be used may not be amended to reflect a chosen name or gender identity unless supported by a court order. In accordance with guidance from the Office of Student Support Services, other student education records (i.e., student work samples) may be amended to reflect the student’s or parent/legal guardian of a minor student’s choice of name and/or gender identity categories: male; female; non-binary or no choice. Other than written documentation of the request, school administrators may not require substantiating documentation of a name or gender identity. This subsection does not apply to participation in extracurricular sports.”

    Consider the situation where one divorced parent supports the student’s sexual identity but the other does not or doesn’t even know. Why should the school itself get in the middle of such conflicts? Turn it over to administration but respect the child’s requests.

    Further, I think it is highly unlikely that neither parent knows of a child’s change in sexual identity. If such a dramatic change were to happen to a child without either parent’s knowledge, why must the school step in and fix the parents’ failures at parenting? Be a better parent and communicate with your child. Don’t depend on the state to be your conduit.

    1. Nancy Naive Avatar
      Nancy Naive

      Karen has her style.

      1. Eric the half a troll Avatar
        Eric the half a troll

        The best part: “To verify, I did what reporters have always done.”

        Real “reporters” know how to use google first… lol…

        1. Nancy Naive Avatar
          Nancy Naive

          Yes, she asked someone who may not know either but is invested in appearing to know.

  9. Huh, it’s obvious from everyone’s responses here that none of you has a transgender child – and if you did, no wonder they don’t talk about with you. A child who hasn’t told their parents about their gender identity issues is probably scared for one reason or another. Maybe they’ve heard their parents demonize transgender people. Or perhaps they have told their parents and their parents bullied them in some way and insisted it’s “just a phase- you’ll get over it.” If that is the case maybe school is the only place where they feel safe to be who they really are. No child pretends to be another gender just to get into the opposite sex locker room, and if you think otherwise you should do some serious soul searching and research on gender identity issues.

    1. LarrytheG Avatar

      Wasn’t that long ago that homosexual kids had the same issue (and still do). Parents do not “own” their kids. They are their own beings with their own rights – in law.

      And yes, some of them that are trans or homosexual are not on good enough terms with their parents to share that fact and some are afraid.

      You’d never know that listening to some Neanderthals.

      Schools are the number one way that child abuse is discovered. Without the schools, we’d not know it for many. Yes, there are rapists about also in the schools but also child abusers. Happens on a regular basis if the papers are to be believed.

      1. You are so very correct. There are many kids that do come out to their parents just to be rejected and have to live in shame and fear, or even thrown out of their home with no where to go. Schools can be a safe place for these children – sometimes the only safe place. I hope that it continues to be.

        1. LarrytheG Avatar

          Some kids that have been abused at home, their primary hope is telling someone at school – and you can bet when that happens, they don’t immediately call the parents to verify – and for good reason.

          Parents do not “own” their kids. They are responsible for caring for them comprehensively but the kids have rights also and protections when parents fail in their responsibilities.

          Some don’t like to think of it that way but the sad reality is that parental abuse is not at all uncommon…..

          ” Nearly 700,000 children are abused in the U.S each year. An estimated 678,000 children (unique incidents) were victims of abuse and neglect in 2018, the most recent year for which there is national data. That’s about 1% of kids in a given year. However, this data may be incomplete, and the actual number of children abused is likely underreported.”

          That 1% sounds low but multiple it by the total number of kids in a local school system – it’s not zero and those children need protection and much of the time, it is identified at the schools.

          1. All good and accurate points. As someone who went through teacher training I can concur that teachers are trained to be mandated reporters and if abuse/neglect is suspected, they are not to report to the parents, but to social services. Reporting to parents first would most likely endanger the child. The same goes for elder/disabled person abuse/neglect.

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