maureen_and_bob(1)By Peter Galuszka

Sitting for hours listening to former Gov. Robert F. McDonnell testify in his federal corruption trial makes one wonder exactly what his values are, especially as they relate to women.

His entire legal strategy is to “Throw Maureen Under the Bus” – namely his lawyers and those of his co-defendant wife Maureen are portraying Ms. McDonnell as a “basket case” who set up a lot of funny meetings with snake oil salesman Jonnie Ray Williams Sr., accepted expensive gifts from him with promptly telling her husband, and communicated with him 1,200 times in about a year and a half (one day it was 52 text messages.)

She is bad and deceptive. He is good and didn’t know much about her messy friendship with Williams. She is guilty. He is innocent (or so it goes).

Gov. Bob, helmet hair perfect as usual, took the jurors through a horrible litany of his long-decaying marriage to college sweetheart Maureen. While she was screaming and intimidating her staff, he was slogging through “the business of governing” for endless hours every day.

When she approached Ann Romney, wife of Republican presidential candidate on the campaign trail in 2012 and offered the woman who suffers from MS some “Anatabloc,” Williams’ miracle pills, Bob overhead it and was “embarrassed.”

There is something deeply disturbing, however, about McDonnell and his attitudes. He seems to have come from a bygone era when men worked long hours, held major responsibilities and answered to the most important thing in their lives – their overweening ambition.

The husband was ordained by God to do great things, be a Boy Scout, and write his name in history books. His wife was to stay barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen knitting socks or selling silly vials of creams.

McDonnell has since disowned this little passage he wrote at Regent University (Pat Robertson’s school) back in 1989 when he was a graduate student, but it seems strangely relevant. He tried to create some kind of conservative, faith-based government paradigm that would cut taxes, open charter schools and the like. He wrote:

“Further expenditures would be used to subsidize a dynamic new trend of working women and feminists that is ultimately detrimental to the family by entrenching status-quo of nonparental primary nurture of children.” The kicker is his view that feminism is one of the “real enemies of the traditional family.”

Well, a hell of lot of good that thinking has done since he has steadily, deliberately humiliated his wife in a bid to avoid jail time. A parade of defense witnesses, mostly McDonnell cronies, have humiliated Ms. McDonnell as a grabby, irrational, fashion-mad bimbo who just didn’t get it when Bob patiently told her that the stock she held in Star Scientific, Williams’ firm, had lost half their value and were a bad investment.

There are other giveaways that paint McDonnell as a self-important, entitled, superior little prig. Maureen had an apparently successful home-based business selling nutraceuticals like face creams. The Bob that may have sounded so pointlessly “womanish” but it is a big business. When he ran for statewide offices, he told Maureen to nix the biz.

Now wait a minute. Why should he tell his wife that she can’t run her own business she built up because his mission as a conservative political savior is just too important? Why does he get to decide?

One reason has roots in a kind of mid- 20th century philosophy that one used to see in black and white movies and television shows. There has been a deluge of testimony about the Virginia suburbs of DC roots of the McDonnells. Lots of military, conservative, family values, do-goodism, ticket punching (making colonel or the appropriate GS level position) having some silly affection for the Redskins or golf club bags with your school logo and so on. But the most obnoxious attitude is that the self-pride that one is doing something very important for his country and fellow citizens.

If you are male, you get to wear this cloak. If you are a woman, your first and foremost goal is to mind the kids and support your man and be a handmaiden to HIS career and ambitions. Watch the 1950s “Strategic Air Command” film” with Jimmy Stewart as a ballplayer pilot and his dutiful wife June Allyson. He makes the big decisions and flies the big bombers. She’s always waiting at the air base fence for him to come home so she can cook him fried eggs.

But McDonnell has a bigger problem than just this over-the-top sense of duty. By his own testimony, McDonnell is seriously addicted to political ambition. It is his oxycodone. His heroin. He gets a real kick by planning the next stage (vice president? president?) Maureen is left by herself and her screaming fits. Bob just tunes her out and spends as much time traveling and in his office as he can.

As he testified, McDonnell got a buzz from being a state legate and an even bigger buzz by running for attorney general and governor. One woman who seemed to be cheering him every step of the way was Janet Kelly, who ended up being Secretary of the Commonwealth when he became governor. She testified that when he wanted her for that spot, she told him flat out she could not work with Maureen. She didn’t.

Family values, anyone?


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9 responses to “Maureen McDonnell and Sexism”

  1. NoVaShenandoah Avatar
    NoVaShenandoah

    I believe that we are indeed seeing McDonnell’s true ‘family values’. After all, I recall his thesis that he, with lots of help from the Conservatives, simply waived off as irrelevant. One of his arguments was that he is after happily married and a father of four (?) daughters.

  2. this is WORSE than butt-ugly…

    the woman who gave a Rolex to her Husband were essentially not doing well since 1990?

    and so McDonnell sends his wife an EMAIL about the personal issues between them because they cannot talk in person because she is yelling at him?

    and you detail this in court to the world as a reason why both he and his wife engaged in behaviors that ended up not disclosing a pattern of gifts and money from one guy – when at the same time they were disclosing gifts and in-kind donations from companies like Dominion and Perdue?

    the reason the disclosures were not made was because Maureen and Bob were having marital “difficulties”?

    really?

    Who believes this? This is not only “Throw Maureen under the Bus” this is the quintessential deeply cynical strategy of putting together a narrative tailored to gullible “family value” rubes.

    This is like being the next to use a restroom when the guy in front of you just dropped a mega load. Oh the stench! Oh the horror!

  3. billsblots Avatar
    billsblots

    1. “The kicker is his view that feminism is one of the “real enemies of the traditional family.” ‘
    From “Basic Principles of Feminist Theory”
    2. One main tenet is that the family form created by capitalism (women staying home, while men work) is the main source of women’s inequality, and that replacing the traditional family can only come about through a revolution that creates a government to meet the needs of the family.
    Gosh, how could ANYONE familiar with feminist theory get the crazy idea that feminism is in contradiction to traditional family organization??????
    I don’t know, maybe from the basic doctrine of feminism itself????
    Personally I don’t care and it’s no issue with me, but failing to recognize the roots and nature of feminism is a major fail. (Incidentally, the assumption in the feminist document that “the traditional family was formed in capitalism” is wildly inaccurate and stated with a blatantly socialist purpose, but this is in the core of old school feminism)

    ROFL, what a misguided effort. It is clear it is much easier to launch personal – and wholly irrelevant to this case – attacks at the dysfunctional (who hasn’t been at some time in their life) and smarmy defendants than sticking to actual legal issues and testimony thereon.

  4. Richard Avatar

    This is a very harsh view of the McDonnells.

    I have sympathy for the governor. His whole career was politics, but it was destroying his marriage. He could have given up the politics after being attorney general, and he and his wife could have gotten therapy, and they could have gotten a divorce, and maybe (maybe) he could have saved his wife and their marriage. But that would have been so hard. If he could only have gotten through the 4 years as governor, he would have reached the peak of his political career and could then have gone into a real legal practice at a very high level. I think it’s pretty clear that was his choice – he chose wrong. Of course she also had a choice – she could have let the marriage go, but that would have been even harder; she probably couldn’t imagine not being married and the pressure on her to continue the marriage for his political career would have been intense.

    It seems pretty clear at this point that they are not “throwing her under the bus” but that they are sharing a very real, and sad situation, because they are forced to. The silver lining for them is that they do not have to keep these secrets anymore.

    The situation says some harsh things about politics and marriages – it is particularly difficult to be a “Christian politician” running on family values when your family has serious issues. I very much dislike the whole idea of “family values” and candidates who run on their religious affiliations – as we have seen those who most profess them often have the biggest problems. At least McDonnell wasn’t a hypocrite – he seemed to want to have a real marriage.

  5. The most sexist thing in this whole affair are blog posts like the one Peter wrote here.

    Maureen McDonnell was a “college sweetheart”? So, she’s educated. Apparently she’s not educated enough to have any influence on her own legal strategy. Or she’s not smart enough to understand the legal strategy. I guess in Peter’s mind women are incapable of charting their own course even after being educated. Why does he think this? Maybe he’s sexist?

    I’ve heard that the McDonnells lived separately until his kids went off to college. They graduated from UVA in 2014. They got to UVA in the fall of 2010 presumably. Bob became Attorney General in January, 2006. So, through 2006, 2007, 2008, 2009 and most of 2010 Maureen was still living in Virginia Beach? This doesn’t quite fit the “barefoot and pregnant” narrative Peter wants to paint.

    To hear Peter tell it Maureen was a sack of jello with no backbone who had no will sufficient to stand up to her ambitious husband. To hear every witness who actually knows her tell it Maureen flies into a rage when she doesn’t get her way, hides activities from her husband and behaves like a holy terror in general. I suspect that if Maureen wanted to keep her business open she had the moxie to tell Bob to “shove it”. What the hell – she apparently told everybody to “shove it”. But in Peter’s warped mind Maureen was incapable of saying “no” to Bob. Why does Peter think this? Because he’s sexist?

    There has not been a scintilla of evidence that Maureen McDonnell was unwilling to speak her mind and do what she wanted to do. In fact, there is a boatload of evidence of just the opposite – nobody told Maureen McDonnell what to do. Yet we are treated to a liberal fairy tale in this narrative. Bob told Maureen to shut down her business and she meekly complied. No chance that being the wife of a rising politician appealed to her and she agreed to shut down the business? The liberal fairy tale continues with Maureen being unable to affect her own legal defense because she is subservient to Bob. No chance she’d rather be embarrassed than incarcerated and she agreed with this legal strategy?

  6. Peter Galuszka Avatar
    Peter Galuszka

    Sexist pigs! You are missing my point

    1. I understand your point – Bob McDonnell thinks he’s Ward Cleaver. Actually, Cuccinelli would make a convincing Eddie Haskell. Maybe Bob is a bit old fashioned but Maureen is college educated and seems, shall we say, quite able to fend for herself. I get the opinion that she liked being a rising political star’s life right up to the day she didn’t like it anymore.

      My point is that none of the Progressive commentators find any fault with Maureen’s heinous behavior. Why not? Because she’s “just a woman”? How much crap can you heap on your co-workers, employees and husband before you deserve some embarrassment? How many text messages can you send to your “crush” before you deserve some criticism?

      1. As an aside, the actor who portrayed Eddie Haskell left acting and went on to become a Los Angeles policeman working undercover in narcotics and vice. He was shot three times while chasing a car thief and had to leave the police force on disability.

        He would later return to acting.

  7. Richard Avatar

    Actually Eric Cantor is really Eddie Haskell.

    This would be fun if it weren’t so tragic. Heights of cheesy rhetoric for a sad domestic situation – one you might find in your own neighborhood (behind closed doors). It is titillating because it is not behind closed doors and these are high-faluting personages, but if it were someone you actually knew you’d see how sad and hard it really is. I appreciate the prosecution bringing all this out because there shouldn’t be corruption – OR the appearance of corruption – in politics. I think this may actually help the McDonnells – they are having to face some difficult truths.

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